Faking orgasms is a trial many women deal with. So much so, it feels almost universal. (I know I’ve faked plenty of orgasms in my day.) And once you start faking it, it’s hard to stop.

Remember that scene from Sex and the City when Miranda runs into a guy she used to sleep with on the running trail?

“Who was that?” Carrie asks.

“Oh. Just someone I used to fake orgasms with,” she replies.

She then goes on to explain that she slept with him and realized it wasn’t going to happen, so she faked it to get the sex over with. The next time she slept with him, she had to fake it because she’d faked it the first time—a story all too familiar.

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