I’ve been with my new partner for a little over five months. We get along so well. It’s the first time I’ve been in a relationship that is functional and I’m not constantly asking myself, ‘when it will blow up in my face?’ Such a relief.
My question has to do with my favorite thing in the world: weed. I’ve noticed that when I smoke weed, my orgasms are much stronger. It’s not that I can’t have orgasms sober, it’s that orgasm is more intense and long-lasting when I’m stoned.
This is something I’ve wondered about for a long time. I’ve looked online for answers, but it seems like a lot of noise and I don’t know what to believe.
So, I wanted to ask you: Does weed make sex better? I’m so curious.
Hey Q (Q for QUEEN?!?!?),
Appreciate the note! Marijuana and sex drive have long been talked about. Everyone wants to know if weed is going to make sex better. Stoners want to believe YES and moralists want you to think it will sterilize you and maybe make you die.
So, where is the truth in all of this? Let’s explore.
Personally, I can say that YES, weed does make my orgasms stronger and my libido higher. I am a big marijuana fan and I swear by its powerful effects on my sex drive. Whenever I’ve smoked a solid indica, sex is more intimate, pleasurable, and intense. It feels like my entire body is buzzing.
That being said, when I’m high, I only want to have sex with someone I have a powerful connection with. I have to trust them. Otherwise, I might have a freakout.
See, it’s complicated! I’ve done research on this stuff (because I LOVE weed) but I’m not a doctor or a scientist. Keep this in mind.
There have been a few studies on weed and sex. All of them seem to have different answers. The information is a bit wishy-washy. A study from Stanford University found a definite positive link between sex and pot. The study results show that those who smoke more weed have more sex. Why this is still unclear, but I’m willing to roll with it (pun intended). So, you know, science.
There are over 100 known cannabinoids out there. You may have heard of THC and CBD? These are the two main components in marijuana. The other cannabinoids contained in pot will change the effect they have on you. Some combinations may make libido stronger, others may make you a ball of nerves, and others might just make you tired.
It’s more complex than that! It also depends on your bodily makeup and the way your brain reacts to marijuana in all its many combinations and cannabinoid makeups. So, it’s not just about what’s in your pot – it’s about how you as an individual and unique person react to said pot.
Weed has many an effect on the brain. One of the ways weed connects to sex is through the reward system of the brain. Studies have shown that weed activates the pleasure centers of the brain, releasing hormones connected to positive feelings. These same chemicals are released during sexual pleasure and orgasm.
So, it makes sense that if you’re feeling extra amazing, sex would be better. This won’t be the case for everyone – as I’ve said, weed has different effects on different people – but for some, weed can do the trick.
As for the prolonged feeling of orgasm, this is subjective. Your orgasms may feel like they last forever, but time is weird when you’re high. You know what I mean, right? Five minutes can feel like an hour when you smoke. It’s possible that your orgasms are the same length and you only feel like they last longer.
It’s also possible they really do last longer! If you have a clock near the bed, check on the time. As you’re getting close to coming, look at the time. What time is it when you finally come back down to earth? Sexual science is fun. Do a bit of research and self-study.
At the end of the day, there is no definitive answer. Human brains are unique and marijuana has a complex chemical makeup. If weed makes you feel sexier and it increases your libido, that’s awesome. Keep doing what works for you.
I hope this helps a bit!
Gigi Engle is a feminist writer, sex educator, and speaker. A book with St. Martins Press is forthcoming.
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